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Stupid questions get stupid answers.
DISCLAIMER: IF YOU ARE MY FRIENDS, BEST FRIENDS, OR BOYFRIEND, PLEASE DISREGARD EVERYTHING BELOW AND SEND ME WHATEVER THE HELL YOU WANT. I LOVE Y'ALL TO THE MOON AND BACK, MWAHMWAHMWAH. FEEL MY LOVE, YOU WONDERFUL PEOPLE.
Look, I try to be an honest person, I really do. I was never good at hiding my emotions, so being transparent about them is kinda how I roll. Kindness is not a finite resource in my book; if I can give it, I will do so happily. I’m an open book and empathetic to a fault. If you want to talk, please don’t hesitate to drop a message down in the ask box below.
That being said, however, I only ask you don’t mistake my compassion for weakness. I’m experimenting with the “Do no harm, but take no shit” thing here. Don’t test my patience. If you are coming here to spout some prejudiced, biased, discriminatory bullshit that reeks of human rights violations, I will block you with no hesitation.
I utilise Tumblr very differently from how I utilise other social media platforms: I have no intention of filtering my thoughts here. This is my space, this is my zone. If you’re here to start trouble, I’ll make sure it will be very short-lived.
Now the next few things I have to say are slightly more specific, depending on the context and circumstances surrounding the asker. Like, I really can’t fucking believe I have to add this, but since so many of you deem it necessary, it must be done.
If the following messages or questions (or their variants) are something you would send me, make sure you carefully read the pre-written responses I’ve provided before continuing on. If you aren’t sure how to proceed, but feel like this section applies to you in any manner, you should probably just go ahead and read as well. I don’t play games. Tread with caution.
Responses you might hear from me if you are an ex-partner, sexual, romantic, or both...
I still love you/I’m still in love with you/I miss you/I can’t forget about you/I want to get back together. I literally couldn’t care less. I am more than happy with my current boyfriend and I’ll be damned if I let some irrelevant nobody mess with that. We broke up, get over it. I don’t want you in my life and I certainly don’t want to be in yours. Fuck off, leave me alone.
I’ll kill myself if you don’t talk to me or get back together with me.
First off, I know you aren’t being serious and that is just you being emotionally manipulative. I’m not going to bother humouring you. However, if you do have a history of mental illness, I advise you to utilize Crisis Text Line if you are truly in a moment of crisis. Just text “HELP” or “HOME” to 741-741 and proceed from there. Don’t contact me again or ever, I’m not your fucking therapist. Seek professional help. I’m not here to perform emotional labour for you.
Can we at least be friends? No, especially if we have recently separated. Maybe if it’s been a while and I feel you have made considerable progress in maturing. Definitely if I know for sure you are over me or were never into me and we can easily and comfortably laugh about our past mishaps with each other.
Responses you might hear from me if you are somehow affiliated with an ex-partner, sexual, romantic, or both...
So I heard you dated so-and-so. I’m interested in them. Can you tell me your side of the story so I can know exactly what I’m getting myself into? I will, but keep in mind my side is still biased, no matter how hard I try not to be. You need to understand that. Also, don’t ask me for advice, I just want to be as pedantic as possible.
I dislike/hate you because you broke your ex’s heart and I’m going to go on an epic rant detailing my reasons for disliking/hating you even though I only heard their side and already have a misconstrued image of you. Take your petty ass somewhere else and sit there. And get real acquainted with never hearing from me.
Responses you might hear from me if you are a fuckboi...
Hey, beautiful/gorgeous/cutie/any compliment that has to do with my physical beauty. Fuck off. And if you reply with, “I was only being friendly, why are you such a bitch?”, you need to relearn the definition of “friendly”. Calling a random stranger by anything other than their name is a huge red flag.
Wanna chill at my place? No.
We should get to know each other. Not interested.
You're so fucking hot/I wanna fuck you/nice pair of tits/any other derogatory, objectifying remark. I am aware I have conventionally attractive features. I hope you are aware of how unresponsive I am going to get.
*sends an unsolicited, sexually explicit photo/video or more* Hahahaha, I hope for your sake you do not personally know me because I will make your life a living hell if you give me the proper ammo to do so. If I don't know you, you're getting blocked. Consider yourself lucky if that's the case. If you are persistent, whether or not I know you, your ass is going to get landed in jail.
revolutionary idea: pet ownership is not a human right.
cats scratch. dogs bark. certain rare pets are not adapted to living in a regular domestic setting. if your home is not suited for an animal to express their most basic natural behaviours or your situation makes absolutely predictable traits into dealbreakers, then you should not have that kind of pet. “but i want one” is not an acceptable excuse for owning an animal you can’t provide for.
This includes feeding them the diet they require, not the diet you think they should have because of your own moral beliefs.
Also: can’t afford the vet, don’t get the pet.
Yes yes and yes
I mean people in poverty cannot afford the vet but most of them take dogs off of the street and care for them anyway. Disabled people who may need animals like dogs for comfort may not be able to afford the vet but they still have dogs. A lot of black and brown people take dogs off of the street and care for them but they cannot afford vets. There are people living in poor neighborhoods and areas ( black, brown people again) and don’t have money for the vet but still have watch or guard dogs or family dogs.
This last part is incredibly white lmao. Like only rich white people can always afford to take their dogs to the vet and can say something as easy as “if you cant afford the vet then don’t get a dog”, and this is coming from someone who takes my dog to the vet for her checkups. The vets also overcharged us and gave our dog medication that didn’t help her (for her ears and anxiety), and we paid over $100 for that shit. Our vet gave our dog something that irritated her skin. We had to find home remedies to help her lmao.
Anyway, the idea that you shouldn’t own or have something if you cannot take it to the doctor always targets disabled people and poc. This idea extends to eugenics(if you can’t take kids to the doctor don’t have them - and no im not talking about vaccines which you should get).
And the alternative to “give up your dog if you can’t take it to the vet” is what? A shelter. Not all dogs get adopted out, in fact a small minority does. Other dogs end up getting killed by shelters.
Again, who ever believes that you must be able to afford a vet if you cannot, then don’t get a dog has never gone outside of America, (and Im talking about going to nonwesternized countries that are primarily brown and black), has never gone to a poor brown or black neighborhood, and hasn’t met a disabled person. This post is racist and ableist. At least the additions made by @ladydrace and @coolcatgroup
please raise your children to wash their hands after they use the restroom I’ve watched too many men walk straight out of the bathroom from the stall without a second thought and it’s keeping me up at night
Writers can use these 12 Archetypes to create characters
The 12 Common Archetypes by Carl Golden
The twelve archetypes are divided into ego types, self types, and soul types.
1) The Four Ego Types
1. The Innocent Motto: Free to be you and me Core desire: to get to paradise Goal: to be happy Greatest fear: to be punished for doing something bad or wrong Strategy: to do things right Weakness: boring for all their naive innocence Talent: faith and optimism The Innocent is also known as: Utopian, traditionalist, naive, mystic, saint, romantic, dreamer.
2. The Orphan/Regular Guy or Gal Motto: All men and women are created equal Core Desire: connecting with others Goal: to belong Greatest fear: to be left out or to stand out from the crowd Strategy: develop ordinary solid virtues, be down to earth, the common touch Weakness: losing one’s own self in an effort to blend in or for the sake of superficial relationships Talent: realism, empathy, lack of pretence The Regular Person is also known as: The good old boy, everyman, the person next door, the realist, the working stiff, the solid citizen, the good neighbour, the silent majority.
3. The Hero Motto: Where there’s a will, there’s a way Core desire: to prove one’s worth through courageous acts Goal: expert mastery in a way that improves the world Greatest fear: weakness, vulnerability, being a “chicken” Strategy: to be as strong and competent as possible Weakness: arrogance, always needing another battle to fight Talent: competence and courage The Hero is also known as: The warrior, crusader, rescuer, superhero, the soldier, dragon slayer, the winner and the team player.
4. The Caregiver Motto: Love your neighbour as yourself Core desire: to protect and care for others Goal: to help others Greatest fear: selfishness and ingratitude Strategy: doing things for others Weakness: martyrdom and being exploited Talent: compassion, generosity The Caregiver is also known as: The saint, altruist, parent, helper, supporter.
2) The Four Soul Types
5. The Explorer Motto: Don’t fence me in Core desire: the freedom to find out who you are through exploring the world Goal: to experience a better, more authentic, more fulfilling life Biggest fear: getting trapped, conformity, and inner emptiness Strategy: journey, seeking out and experiencing new things, escape from boredom Weakness: aimless wandering, becoming a misfit Talent: autonomy, ambition, being true to one’s soul The explorer is also known as: The seeker, iconoclast, wanderer, individualist, pilgrim.
6. The Rebel Motto: Rules are made to be broken Core desire: revenge or revolution Goal: to overturn what isn’t working Greatest fear: to be powerless or ineffectual Strategy: disrupt, destroy, or shock Weakness: crossing over to the dark side, crime Talent: outrageousness, radical freedom The Outlaw is also known as: The rebel, revolutionary, wild man, the misfit, or iconoclast.
7. The Lover Motto: You’re the only one Core desire: intimacy and experience Goal: being in a relationship with the people, work and surroundings they love Greatest fear: being alone, a wallflower, unwanted, unloved Strategy: to become more and more physically and emotionally attractive Weakness: outward-directed desire to please others at risk of losing own identity Talent: passion, gratitude, appreciation, and commitment The Lover is also known as: The partner, friend, intimate, enthusiast, sensualist, spouse, team-builder.
8. The Creator Motto: If you can imagine it, it can be done Core desire: to create things of enduring value Goal: to realize a vision Greatest fear: mediocre vision or execution Strategy: develop artistic control and skill Task: to create culture, express own vision Weakness: perfectionism, bad solutions Talent: creativity and imagination The Creator is also known as: The artist, inventor, innovator, musician, writer or dreamer.
3) The Four Self Types
9. The Jester Motto: You only live once Core desire: to live in the moment with full enjoyment Goal: to have a great time and lighten up the world Greatest fear: being bored or boring others Strategy: play, make jokes, be funny Weakness: frivolity, wasting time Talent: joy The Jester is also known as: The fool, trickster, joker, practical joker or comedian.
10. The Sage Motto: The truth will set you free Core desire: to find the truth. Goal: to use intelligence and analysis to understand the world. Biggest fear: being duped, misled—or ignorance. Strategy: seeking out information and knowledge; self-reflection and understanding thought processes. Weakness: can study details forever and never act. Talent: wisdom, intelligence. The Sage is also known as: The expert, scholar, detective, advisor, thinker, philosopher, academic, researcher, thinker, planner, professional, mentor, teacher, contemplative.
11. The Magician Motto: I make things happen. Core desire: understanding the fundamental laws of the universe Goal: to make dreams come true Greatest fear: unintended negative consequences Strategy: develop a vision and live by it Weakness: becoming manipulative Talent: finding win-win solutions The Magician is also known as: The visionary, catalyst, inventor, charismatic leader, shaman, healer, medicine man.
12. The Ruler Motto: Power isn’t everything, it’s the only thing. Core desire: control Goal: create a prosperous, successful family or community Strategy: exercise power Greatest fear: chaos, being overthrown Weakness: being authoritarian, unable to delegate Talent: responsibility, leadership The Ruler is also known as: The boss, leader, aristocrat, king, queen, politician, role model, manager or administrator.
Note: There are four cardinal orientations: freedom, social, ego, order. The types have a place on these orientations.
weird how I became a much more compassionate and accepting person when I realised that drug addiction is the symptom of a problem and not the problem in itself
you also start to realise just how much the War On Drugs was actually a war against the poor, against survivors, against trans people, against sex workers, against the mentally ill and the disabled, against PoC, against queers, against the homeless. how much of it was a government manufactured ploy to sell violence against the marginalized as violence against addiction, as if addiction was not a symptom of systemic abuse.
